How do you fill your bucket? You may be thinking right now, what bucket? How about your own personal interactions and connections this week? Those bucket dippers are exhausting and in my book, Career ReCharge: Five Strategies to Boost Resilience and Beat Burnout , my chapter on connection talks about why we need to stay away from toxic people.
They not only dip into our bucket but also make it difficult to fill it. Recently, I had an experience where my bucket was so full with gratitude that it was overflowing! Eleven years ago, I sat next to Lisa Dolce at a career coaching conference. I had no idea this was the beginning of a beautiful friendship or of the role Lisa would play in my career success.
Lisa recently hosted a Career ReCharge book celebration luncheon in my honor that included the fellow writers, and now friends, we met during our one-year book writing program. Not only was it wonderful to see these incredible people, I realized after the event how they had helped keep my bucket full when I was writing my book.
We shared so many experiences and when I hit a writing challenge, I was surrounded by supportive friends. The real beauty of these individuals is that although we are all on different writing paths—some will finish their book this year and others have decided to take a different innovative journey—there is no competition between us, just support.
I have learned by constantly filling my bucket, and by seeing how my coaching clients fill their buckets, what a difference it makes when we focus our energy on connections that recharge us. You never know when you meet a new person what impact they will have in your future!
We often forget that not just people can fill our buckets. For example, this morning when walking our dog Maple, the smell of the budding flowers and trees was incredible, I saw a little bunny hiding behind a tree, and just the feel of the warmer weather and singing birds filled my bucket.
The research abounds on how nature can provide an incredible recharge to us mentally. Everyone does the best they can with the hand they're dealt. Realistically, no two parents run their households exactly the same way. What parenting culture has shifted toward emphasizes equipping kids with the skills and tools they'll need. It's a shift from the days of training them on how to think or behave. In doing so, we face a lot of challenges still.
In an ever-changing world that's grown increasingly complicated and dark, how do we teach our kids to be kind and empathetic? Enter " bucket filling ," a concept that's said to teach everyone from young children to adults in the workplace how to consciously think of their own feelings and mental well-being as well as those of others. By using a concrete example, we can build on the idea of how happiness, sadness, and the complex myriad of emotions in between are exchanged.
Teaching kids how to be kind and compassionate is important work, but it isn't always easy. Now more than ever, there's a lot of developing gray area in how people deal with one another that parents and children alike are learning to navigate.
In schools, workplaces, and communities around the world, the bucket-filling method is being adopted as a baseline for teaching empathy and emotional well-being to even the youngest kids.
It uses the concrete example of a bucket as a reservoir for your emotional and mental self. The concept itself dates back to the earliest written fables, but it was first applied to mental and emotional well-being in the s. Donald O. Clifton also coauthored the No. The concept was passed along throughout the decades, and early childhood educator Carol McCloud learned about it in the s.
During a research project, Carol discovered it was being taught to children in orphanages in Romania. I usually get the kids to decorate a small paper cup or popcorn container with googly eyes and a marker to create a face. You can add a chenille stick for the handle. If you have older students, they could write bucket filling notes too. Then at the end of the term the kids can take their full buckets home.
Preparation — Print and laminate the cards for added durability. Then grab a basket of pegs clothes pins. How to Play — Choose a card and look at the action.
Think about whether that action would fill someones bucket or dip from it. Then place a peg on the answer. This activity is fun to do as a group activity. Preparation — Print and laminate the sorting cards for added durability. Other useful resources include hoola hoops and a container to put the cards in e.
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